Phần thưởng bất ngờ cho con

ngoài việc nói rõ các mong đợi và thưởng cho con cái vì những thành tích cụ thể, cha mẹ nên thỉnh thoảng làm con bất ngờ với những món quà nhỏ, như tới thủy cung, bảo tàng nơi sinh sống, có thể rất khuyến khích các em...
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Neil Parmar has a good recent piece on the best ways to bribe (mua chuộc) your children. Here is one of his points:
In addition to spelling out expectations (kì vọng) and agreeing on rewards (phần thưởng) for specific achievements (thành tích cụ thể), surprise (gây bất ngờ) them once a while with a special reward for good behavior (hành vi tốt) on a continuing basis (liên tục). Research on how the brain works shows that children react well to surprises.

An unexpected trip to the aquarium (thủy cung), a local museum or another special experience "can be very motivating to a child," says Srini Pillay, an assistant clinical professor of psychiatry (tâm thần học) at Harvard Medical School and chief executive of NeuroBusiness Group, which uses brain science to help children and adults overcome psychological obstacles (rào cản tâm lý).

Science has shown that unexpected (không ngờ) rewards, especially for younger children, can encourage them to make certain behaviors into a lifestyle. Sometimes when Brett Arrington, who owns a consulting firm, is shopping with his 6- and 9-year-old boys he purchases a toy they really want. Mr. Arrington waits until the boys have been especially helpful—by cleaning up someone else's mess, for example—then he surprises them with the toy. It "works well because it's not a promise and can happen whenever and for whatever," says Mr. Arrington.

The full article is here. It also suggests letting your children choose the reward and "matching gifts," where you match their contribution toward some good or service, especially as your children grow older and develop some earning capacity.

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