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10 lời khuyên của Dale Carnegie về hạnh phúc
20 Aug, 2013
English: 1000advices.com, lời Việt: Hiệu Minh.
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1/ It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about. Không phải những thứ bạn đang sở hữu, không phải bạn đang sống ở đâu, hay không phải công việc bạn đang làm, giúp cho bạn hạnh phúc hay bất hạnh. Hạnh phúc hay không chính là điều bạn nghĩ trong đầu.
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Happiness is infectious. It spreads like wild fire, but don't put it out, help someone else feel the pleasure of joy. Smile at a stranger because it might make their day :). Photo courtesy Rory MacLeod.
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2/ If we think happy thoughts, we will be happy. If we think miserable thoughts, we will be miserable. Nếu ta nghĩ hạnh phúc thì sẽ hạnh phúc. Nếu nghĩ đó là khổ đau thì nó là khổ đau.
3/ The person who seeks all their applause from outside has their happiness in another’s keeping. Những người thích người khác hoan hô thì họ nhờ vào hạnh phúc của người khác.
4/ One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon instead of enjoying the roses blooming outside our windows today. Thảm họa của con người là bỏ qua những gì đang đang có. Họ mơ ước về vườn hồng kỳ diệu thay vì nhìn qua cửa có những bông hoa đang thật tuyệt vời.
5/ If only the people who worry about their liabilities would think about the riches they do possess, they would stop worrying. Chỉ những người lo trả nợ nần mới nghĩ về tiền nong, tưởng rằng của cải sẽ giúp họ không lo nữa.
6/ Are you bored with life? Then throw yourself into some work you believe in with all your heart, live for it, die for it, and you will find happiness that you had thought could never be yours. Nếu bạn chán đời ư, hãy làm việc gì đó với cả trái tim, sống và chết vì nó. Bạn sẽ tìm được hạnh phúc chưa từng có trước đó.
7/ Remember, happiness doesn’t depend upon who you are or what you have, it depends solely upon what you think. Nên nhớ, hạnh phúc không phụ thuộc bạn là ai, bạn có gì, mà chính là bạn nghĩ bạn có hạnh phúc hay không.
8/ Today’s life – the only life you are sure of. Make the most of today. Get interested in something. Shake yourself awake. Develop a hobby. Let the winds of enthusiasm sweep through you. Live today with gusto. Cuộc sống hôm nay chính là cuộc sống mà bạn chắc chắn đang hưởng. Hãy làm thật nhiều trong một ngày. Hãy quan tâm đến cái gì đó. Hãy để cho cơn gió đam mê thổi tâm hồn. Hãy sống hôm nay với tất cả sức lôi cuốn.
9/ The essence of all art is to have pleasure in giving pleasure. Nghệ thuật của mọi thứ nghệ thuật là cảm thấy hạnh phúc khi biết chia sẻ hạnh phúc.
10/ Act as if you were already happy and that will tend to make you happy. Hãy sống như mình đang hạnh phúc thì nó sẽ giúp bạn hạnh phúc.
Bài trước: Be careful
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“Matchers gain, strivers lose,” he [Cowen] writes in a new book, “The Complacent Class.”
Matchers, aka enthusiasts, are people who are motivated by personal interests, whether that’s record collecting, hiking, cooking, or obsessing about “Game of Thrones.” “The enthusiasts are not trying to come out ahead of everyone else; rather, they seek to have some of their niche preferences fulfilled for the sake of their own internally directed happiness,” Cowen writes.
Strivers, on the other hand, are motivated by beating others. “These are the people who strive to have the biggest office, bed the most mates, earn the most money, or climb whatever the relevant status ladder might be,” Cowen writes.
It’s not hard to see how recent trends have favored matchers. This group has benefitted from technology — from Tinder to Spotify to Google — that makes it easier for them to pursue their interests and find other people who share them. Meanwhile, strivers are suffering, faced with more competition than ever and a greater awareness of how many people around the world are beating them.
Tìm cách kết nối, có 1.000 người hâm mộ thực thụ...
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Over/with
// Seth Godin
You connect with someone.
But you exert power over someone.
You can dance and communicate and engage with a partner. It's a two way street, a partnership.
On the other hand, you either exert control over someone, or you are under their control. If you want to be an Olympic wrestler, you need to be comfortable (not necessarily in favor of, but willing to live with) the idea that you will spend time under.
For thousands of years, we've built our culture to teach people to not only tolerate a powerful overlord, but in a vacuum, to seek one out. We build school around the idea of powerful teachers, coaches and authority figures telling us what to do. We go to the placement office to seek a job, instead of starting our own thing, because we've been taught that this is the way it works, it's reliable, it's safer.
And so we're pushed to begin with under, not with.
The connection economy begins to undermine this dynamic. But it's frightening. It's frightening to have your own media channel, your own platform, your own ability to craft a community and 1,000 true fans. So instead, we seek out someone to tell us what to do, to trade this for that.
I think it's becoming clear that power doesn't scale like it used to. Too many unders and not enough withs.
But, each of us can change our perspective, as soon as we're ready.
Find your with.
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