Journey in Life: 02/11/15

Wednesday, February 11, 2015

Hai đặc ân của Chúa trời

Chúa trời tạo ra Adam và Eva và, khi sắp ra đi, Ngài nhận thấy trong Túi đặc ân của mình vẫn còn hai thứ chưa trao cho hai sinh vật kia. Thế là Ngài liền gọi chúng:

- Các con, ta còn hai đặc ân chưa kịp trao cho các con. Đặc ân đầu tiên là được đứng tiểu tiện, con nào thích?

Adam muốn được phần hơn (như mọi khi), liền giơ tay kêu to:

- Con, con, xin cho con trước! Như vậy sẽ tốt hơn, con có thể tiểu tiện ở bất cứ nơi nào con muốn, tổ chức các cuộc thi ai tiểu được xa hơn. Hay quá! Xin cho con ngay đi.
- Được rồi, bình tĩnh nào... Ta cho con đó!

Còn Eva thì nhũn nhặn và nhường nhịn (như mọi khi) rất vui vì thấy Adam tỏ ra thích thú, Eva không nói lời nào, chờ được đặc ân thứ hai. Một lúc sau, Đức Chúa trời mới lên tiếng:

- Đặc ân thứ hai... là được hưởng cực khoái nhiều lần! Ta cho con Eva.

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Làm sao để trẻ hết bám mẹ, nhõng nhẽo?

shared via Idealist Mom.
Photo courtesy Hammer Press.

in áp phích "cấm mè nheo" ngay cửa ra vào, mỗi lần con khóc, quấy chỉ vào biển và nhắc đọc to, rõ ràng, mục đích là giúp trẻ hình dung (bằng mắt) chứ không chỉ là nhắc nhở (bằng lời), học đi học lại để nội hóa (internalize) bài học (tương tự như học đi xe đạp, không cần học quy tắc bàn đạp, dây phanh v.v... mà chỉ nhảy lên là đạp xe), lặp đi lặp lại (repetitive, như trẻ học toán, học đọc, nhiều lần thành nhớ, thành quen), có khi trẻ còn nhắc bố, mẹ không được phàn nàn, kêu ca (khi có chuyện không vui ở cơ quan), bé sẽ rất vui, yêu thích bài học này, và tự gương mẫu không mắc lỗi đó,

mục đích: trẻ biết nói, thể hiện yêu cầu, mong muốn của mình bằng lời, rõ ràng, chứ không phải đòi hỏi, nhõng nhẽo, mè nheo, quấy...

In our family, we’ve tried several tricks to handle whining kids.

Depending on the situation, we’ll pick the best “no whining” trick in our parenting toolbox – or we might end up using all of them.

But in the last couple years, one single approach has worked consistently, again and again. In fact, it works even better today than the first day we used it.

And the best part? Our 6-year-old daughter Abby loves it.

Our Secret
When we moved into our home three years ago, we decided it was time for a fresh start.

We told Abby that whining isn’t allowed in the new house, and we hung this sign in the entryway:

Then we asked for her help: “We’ll have to let people know when they come to visit that there’s no whining in our house! Can you help with that?”

Like a lot of folks, she thinks it’s fun to tell people off for doing something that she does herself.

When her voice turns whiny, we point to the poster and say, “What does that say again?”

She’ll read it out loud, and she can’t help but smile when she gets to the “hugs, smiles, and warm fuzzy feelings” line.

Then we can follow up by asking her to say what she wants in a different way, and we’re back on track without a pouting kid or any temper tantrums.

Over this last weekend, I realized she actually has the poster memorized and can recite it on command!

Why This Trick Works Like Magic
The ultimate goal is for your child to learn how to express her wants and needs without whining in the first place. To do this, she needs to internalize the lesson so she doesn’t have to think about it consciously.

But you can’t just jump straight to having your kid internalize a lesson. She needs lots of practice first. Repetitive practice.

The Other Key to Success?
The “no whining” sign is a visual representation of the lesson.

It’s easier for brains to remember information that forms a memorable pattern. The design of the words on the poster are a visual pattern, and the cadence of the words read aloud is an auditory pattern.

A Free Printable No Whining Sign for Your Kids to Color

We love the no whining sign we bought from Hammerpress.

"Thú nhận" của một tài xế taxi Uber

Kiếm tới 252.000 USD / năm không phải nhờ tiền taxi Uber, mà nhờ khéo léo quảng cáo cho mảng kinh doanh nữ trang trong khi chở khách.

shared via Forbes, hat tip to Dollars and Sense.

His name is Gavin Escolar, a charismatic (có uy tín, có sức lôi cuốn) Filipino man with a laugh that’s even louder than his orange-and-red striped dress shirt. We’re cruising down Valencia street when I notice diamond earrings dangling (đu đưa, lủng lẳng) on the dashboard (bảng đồng hồ trên xe ôtô). Around his wrist (cổ tay), an emerald (ngọc lục bảo) bracelet (vòng tay, xuyến) gleams (phát ánh sáng lập lòe) through the sunlight. In the seat pockets, glossy (hào nhoáng) catalogs display more jewelry. The cover reads: Gavin Escolar’s 2014 Collection.

Then it hits me: I’m not in Gavin’s car. I’m in his mobile showroom. He’s not just an Uber driver. Nor is he just an entrepreneur. He’s an Uberpreneur, using the ridesharing app to promote his jewelry business.

khi khách hàng hỏi business card, Gavin không có, và nghĩ ra tại sao chỉ dừng ở business card không thôi.

Gavin turned his car into a showroom. He positioned jewelry everywhere and stored extras in the glove compartment. “My passengers peel back the onion,” he says. “I never solicit (chào mời). I only keep subtle hints (gợi ý tinh tế) to spark (khơi gợi) conversation if they notice. If they don’t, they probably wouldn’t be my target customer anyway.”

“It’s a salesman’s dream,” he continues. “I have 10 minutes to make an impression. Would that happen if I went door-to-door? Or if I bought tiny online ads? My way, I get quality time with quality leads. Best of all, I’m being paid as I do it. It’s like Uber is providing a base salary before I make any jewelry sales.”

He’s the pioneer of Uberpreneurship, a discipline with the best of all worlds: salary of a stable job, autonomy of an entrepreneur, relationships of an executive and feedback of a focus group. He’s showing the world that Uber may not just be a disruptive platform for transportation, but one for small businesses.

"Swing and roundabouts" nghĩa là gì?

Photo courtesy Marty.

'Swing and roundabouts' = what you lose on the swings (cái đu), you gain on the roundabouts (vòng ngựa gỗ) để mô tả một tình huống có nhiều ưu điểm cũng như nhiều vấn đề (something that you say to describe a situation in which there are as many advantages as there are problems); vấn đề cân bằng lỗ lãi.

Ví dụ
If you make more money, you have to pay more tax, so what we gain on the swings, we lose on the roundabouts.
It's swings and roundabouts, really. If you save money by buying a house out of town, you pay more to travel to work.

"I just don't see the problem. You're damned if you do and you're damned if you don't. Whether he was older than him or younger than him, somebody's going to have something to say because you're in the public eye." She added: "If it works for him I say go ahead and do it. He's suffered bi-polar (rối loạn cảm xúc lưỡng cực) as I have and it's swing and roundabouts. People with bi-polar are intense and over-analyse things.

“There was a class bias to it. There were much tougher standards of self control for gentlemen and aristocrats (người quý tộc) but the same standards of self control weren’t expected of labourers or the working poor. “People think the stiff upper lip was the default position but really it was swing and roundabouts. “In the middle ages kings and aristocrats would cry. Key male figures in Shakespeare’s plays cry. And in the 18th and 19th centuries there were several U-turns.”

Its all swing and roundabouts! Women who are young and good looking get on the TV on account of those facts to the exclusion of better qualified but less good looking women. When those same women get older and less good looking they are replaced by younger women. Taken over a lifetime the women on TV benefit from and lose out from their looks. As for men: since they do not benefit from their looks in the first place they, in turn, do not lose out later in life.

Phạm Hạnh


Photo courtesy Lisa Widerberg.

Stop letting people who do so little for you, control so much of your mind, feelings, and emotions.
~ Will Smith

If you’re absent during my struggle, don’t expect to be present during my success.

Don’t chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing and work hard. The right people – the ones who really belong in your life – will come to your. And stay.

Money & success don’t change people; they merely amplify what is already there.

If you’re not making someone’s life better, you’re wasting your time.

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