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03 Feb, 2019
cách tiếp cận một mối quan hệ hẹn hò/lãng mạn phải là lâu bền/cam kết, chứ ko phải ngày-qua-ngày, giống như thuê nhà tính bằng vài năm, chứ ko phải tháng/ngày,
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Hi, Dan.
Is aiming for a long-term commitment in romantic relationships really a good thing? Given that the divorce rate is about 50%, wouldn't it be better for me to approach relationships expecting them to be short-lived, so I won't be disappointed if things don't work out?
—Joseph
Love is one of the areas where prophecies (lời tiên đoán) tend to be self-fulfilling (tự đúng). If you approach relationships expecting them not to last, they probably won't—and vice versa. Relationships aren't static and they reflect (phản ánh) what we invest (đầu tư) in them.
Imagine (thử tưởng tượng) that you made a deal with your landlord (chủ nhà) that your lease would be day-to-day. How much time and money would you invest in your home? Would you paint the walls or fix a leaky faucet (vòi nước rò rỉ)? Most likely you wouldn't, and so your pleasure in your home would be limited at best.
Similarly, if every day you wake up next to your romantic partner and ask yourself, "Should we do this for another day or stop now?" your relationship probably won't deepen very much. It makes sense to think about the long term (lâu dài), since that is the only way to reap the benefits of commitment (cam kết).
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